I know it's part of being an adult - but it sucks. I don't ever seem to have enough time in the day to get everything done that I need or want to do. There are the obvious things of course - cleaning, laundry, dishes - but lately, I've been really just missing friends. Even though I haven't been by myself, and I'm surrounded by people all day, I've been feeling sortof...well, lonely I guess. And let me clarify, I love spending time with Josh, but he's really not a substitute for a girlfriend. I remember when I had virtually no responsibility at all, and I could just spend hours a day with my friends, either hanging out, or talking on the phone, or e-mailing, and now, schedules have to align, husbands and children have to be tended to, supper has to be cooked. Even when I do get together with my closest friends, it involves those things above. And that's not a bad thing of course. I love the chaos of kids running around, but every now and then, I just want to be selfish, sit in a quiet place, and have a good, heartfelt conversation about everything, or nothing at all. Do you know what I mean? Just take a break from "life" - even just for an hour, and be together with those people who are just dear to me. It's good for the soul.
It also seems harder and harder to hang on to a big group of friends, which I hate. I have so many people that are special to me for one reason or another, but because it's so hard to find time during the week, when it's available, it seems like I have to pick and choose who to spend it with, which doesn't feel fair. I swear, sometimes it feels like I'm booked 4 weeks in advance!!
There's gotta be some balance somewhere. I'm determined to find it....
19 hours ago
I totally get this. I miss just having time with friends. But people are so busy with their families and lives. And even though I have a kid, I wish other female friends would invite me out WITHOUT her now and then. Hanging out with friends while trying to keep your child from getting into stuff just isn't the same.
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same here. my sat are booked with just house chores and by the time i'm done it's late in the afternoon. then sun is full as well with family over for most of the day, so again i'm free until late afternoon. when i want to do things with a friend or two it's hard. who's going to want do something with me so late unless it's my husband and kids, but that's only to make me happy. they prefer to be home.
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